[Excerpt] Ruth Bell Graham said, “A good marriage is made up of two good forgivers.” What is forgiveness? It’s choosing to release someone from the obligation that resulted when they hurt you. It’s about humility. It’s about laying down your rights. It’s the opposite of taking, manipulating, and controlling. It doesn’t feel good. But it is good.
It’s time to stop placing your happiness in people. Stop manipulating to get what you want. Be determined to give, bless, and encourage. Don’t look out for yourself – look out for your husband. Sound impossible? That’s what grace is for. But in order to receive God’s grace, you have to be surrendered to God’s grace.
[EXCERPT] Anything that you search for peace, happiness, or satisfaction from apart from God is an idol. So which God do you serve? Are you serving the god of yourself, searching for pleasure and happiness, regardless of the cost? Or are you serving the God who made you, loves you, and is fully able to satisfy you?
God perfect, and therefore is the only one who will never let us down. He is the one who made us, so He knows exactly what we need. He loves us, and wants to give us what will make us holy and happy. And because of His power, He is fully capable of doing it. If you’re not experiencing peace, happiness and satisfaction in your relationship with God, it’s not because of Him.
It’s time to make God your portion. To make Him enough. To learn to let Him satisfy us fully. And until you do that, there is not a single relationship in your life that will result in happiness. Your insecurity and need to take from those people will ruin any chance of it. Because the more you take, the less you get.
[EXCERPT] Christian woman, feminism is not your friend.
I’ve heard far too many people tout themselves as “Christian feminists,” but I argue that such a thing is not possible. You can be only one or the other. Now before you close this window and vow never to come back, let me explain.
We like to think feminism is about equality, but it’s not. It’s about domination. Domination over men and domination over each other. Feminism is about being selfish, not selfless. It’s about taking from others, not giving to others. Is this not the complete opposite of how God calls us to live?
[EXCERPT] Did you know that the average evangelical Christian spends only 3 minutes a day in prayer? And evangelical pastors spend 5. There is something very wrong with this.
I think it’s worthwhile to note that there’s a reason prayer and Bible study are called spiritual disciplines. The first is that they are the most spiritual things you can do – and prayer is THE most spiritual thing you can do. Secondly, consider the meaning of the word discipline: “training to act in accordance with rules; drill.” I think we can all agree that training and drills are challenging – and that’s the point. Our time spent in spiritual discipline is training us, equipping us, and making us strong and competent for the troubles ahead – regardless if those trouble are the daily pressures we face or a major trial that may be around the corner.
[EXCERPT] Have you heard the phrase, “Giving the devil a foothold?” It comes from Ephesians 4:27, and it’s in the context of holding on to hurt and anger. When you indulge in those things, it’s like taking your armor off while you’re at war – it’s going to kill you. And not just those sins, but any sin that you indulge, or as Romans 13:14 says, that you make provision for, opens you up to be destroyed. And the devil does not wait for you to have a vulnerability to come up with an attack – he’s already pursuing you. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us to be alert, because the devil is on the prowl, and he’s looking at us for his next meal.
I think too many people dismiss the importance of cultivating their relationship with God through personal worship simply because they’ve lost sight of the bigger picture of spiritual warfare going on in our lives on a daily basis.
[EXCERPT] How did Jesus know what to do? The Father told him.
How did Jesus know where to go? The Father told him.
How did Jesus know what to say? The Father told him.
How did Jesus know when His time was up? He had finished the work His Father gave him.
You know what we don’t see in Jesus’ example? We don’t see Jesus being reactionary to the people around him. He doesn’t do what the people ask him to; in fact, there are many times when he did the opposite. The people wanted him to stay, and he left. The people wanted him to perform miracles, and he refused. Why would he do this? Because He was getting direction from His Father. It didn’t matter what people said or did to Him, because His purpose and identity were tied to His father, not his friends, family, peers, or enemies.
[EXCERPT] I’ve heard people comment that they feel like they’re already experiencing Hell here on earth. And to a point, I believe they are. But it’s only a taste… a foreshadowing. Covered up, but never warm. Never quite making out shapes or figures. Always waiting… but afraid of the light — or rather, what the light will expose. So we hide in fear, afraid to let anyone near, afraid to be real, afraid to be honest. We play the game and as a result become angry, anxious, or depressed.
But then suddenly, the pain of being in the darkness reaches a breaking point. We get tired of being controlled by fear, by the darkness. Suddenly the fear of the light isn’t as strong. Because with the light comes hope. We don’t have play a game any longer. We can just be real. Honest. To be us.
So we come to Jesus – we step out of the darkness and into the light. We let him see us as we are… in all our filth. And we let him wash us clean, and in response we follow Him in the light for the rest of our days. We’re now free.